The twenties is the age period where you can get to go in the right way or wrong way choice is yours. If you choose the right path and work hard then, obviously you can achieve success.
Today we are here with 25 life-changing lessons I have learned in My Twenties so far.
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25 Life-Changing Lessons I’ve Learned In My Twenties So Far
1. Make a list of your blessings:
Be thankful for what you have in your life. The mundane and commonplace make up the majority of our lives. Examine your accumulated clothing and belongings, as well as your house, friends, family, work, and the food in your cupboards. Maybe there isn’t anything to look at right now, but be grateful for what you do have.
2. Recognize your assets (and your weaknesses):
It’s simple to recognize your assets, such as your sense of humor, kindness, or analytical abilities. It’s also easy to be critical of yourself for having such personality characteristics that you see as flaws maybe you’re easily irritated or always late.
You can make a list of all your skills and abilities. Also, include the major ones that are important aspects of your personality, such as persistence, as well as the little things you excel at, such as juggling or baking delicious oatmeal cookies. Make a list of the aspects of your personality that you dislike or believe are not good for you. Take a look at your weakness. Consider how you might be able to turn those flaws into assets. Let’s say one of your flaws is that you believe you speak too much.
3. Don’t make any comparisons:
When you compare yourself to others, you can become frustrated and judgmental. Remember that you just see a small portion of other people’s daily lives (particularly on social media). Comparing yourself to someone else’s “highlight reel” can only lead to dissatisfaction and a negative self-image.
Instead, compare yourself to when you were in the past to see how far you’ve come. Consider what your life was like 8-10 years ago. Has everything changed? Have you gained new skills, formed new relationships? If you feel like your life has become stagnant, take some action to make some positive changes.
You may also take a look at your current life and envision how you want it to be in five or ten years. Working toward a target will make you feel more confident in yourself and the command of your life.
4. Take Risks:
Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone may sound like the last thing you want to do if you don’t feel good about yourself. Taking a chance, whether it’s doing a new sport, asking someone out on a date, or trying a new dinner recipe, will help you discover more about your capabilities.
Draw on abilities, experience, and tenacity you may not have realized you possessed most of the time when confronted with a challenge. Seeing what you’re capable of will make you respect yourself more and see yourself in a new light.
Being challenged and seeing how you solve those obstacles will help you develop a greater sense of self-worth. You will be concerned that if things do not go as expected, you may become more self-conscious.
5. You don’t have to condemn yourself for every failure:
Reacting to your errors with kindness not only boosts your self-esteem but also makes you more capable and resilient. Fight the inner critic who skews your perceptions. There aren’t many things in life that are “all or nothing.” And if everything didn’t go as planned, it doesn’t mean nothing positive came out of it. One loss does not describe you for the rest of your life.
Even if you make mistakes, you deserve to be treated with respect. Watch your favorite show or order comfort food if you’re feeling ashamed or self-loathing. Don’t make yourself miserable by denying yourself the things that help you cope.
6. Rather than expressing who you “should” be, express who you are:
Do you ever feel compelled to mask your true feelings and personality to make others happy? Reconnect with your core beliefs to help you overcome self-doubt. Identifying moments that make you feel inauthentic is one way to start this phase (either in the past or when they happen to you).
Have a conversation with yourself about what your “inauthentic” side is afraid of. Trust your gut feelings on what scene is perfect for you, who you should hang out with, and what career path to take. You are the ultimate judge of yourself and how to maximize what you have to give the world.
7. Show kindness to yourself:
People are always harsher on themselves than they would be on a friend; treat yourself with the same kindness you would show a friend. Pause and remember whether you would ever say such things to a loved one if you find yourself saying something bad about yourself.
Self-compassion encompasses both your self-talk and your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Stop and re-evaluate if you find yourself doing so or engage in some other types of negative self-talk. Instead of berating yourself, consider what you might do differently next time.
8. Stay and enjoy the moment:
Being conscious and present allows you to remain free of self-and other judgment. Staying present, or conscious, means paying attention to your breathing, the sounds, sights, and smells around you, as well as monitoring your feelings without passing judgment. This exercise eliminates brain chatter, which will assist you in reducing any negative self-talk you might be having.
Staying present allows you to maintain your calm. You concentrate on the present moment and your breath instead of all the things you need to do. Anything else (your emotions, your to-do list, your worries) can be exhaled out with your breath if it isn’t linked to the present moment. It will take some time to get the hang of it, so don’t get discouraged if you don’t get it right away. Do not give up!
9. Eliminate negativity from your life:
Reframe having negativity as a mental health problem rather than a physical one. Dieting and other popular physical “solutions” can exacerbate depression and anxiety, as well as trap you in a weight cycle that is harmful to your health.
Delete applications and unfollow social media feeds that make you feel bad about yourself. Take a break from idealized bodies on TV and other newspapers. Avoid people who make you think negatively, or ask them not to bring up triggering subjects in your presence. If you’re overly concerned about your weight, height, diet, or exercise, seek help from a mental health professional.
10. Rely on your mates for advice and support:
When all you have to deal with is your self-critical brain, it may feel like a catch-22 to boost your self-esteem. Share your worries, even your self-loathing, with someone you care about, and listen to what they have to say which is generally more accurate and real.
11. Stop acting as if you’re a victim:
Ungrateful people are still blaming the world for their problems and believing that nothing bad ever happens to them. If you want to be grateful, you must stop believing that the world, your teachers, your boss, your friends, or your family are all out to get you and instead concentrate on all of how the world is assisting you in making your life easier.
Take control of your destiny. Stop thinking about yourself as a victim of bad luck and start focusing on all of the aspects of your life that everyone would consider being fortunate.
12. Express your gratitude to others:
Too often, you forget to tell people how much they mean to you, or that you appreciate what they do. Thanking others will help to foster an environment of gratitude that will spread over time. If your mother prepares your lunch, say something like mom, I know packing a lunch doesn’t sound like much to you, but I appreciate how you always strive to make my morning just a little less hectic.
13. Take action against loneliness:
Socialize with other people at least once, once a week. Connection with others is an important tool for getting us out of our heads and reminding us that we are all just ordinary, flawed humans.
When circumstances prevent you from hanging out, find the next best thing. When nothing else works, a half-hour video chat is a great choice. Even striking up a conversation with a random stranger on the street can have a profoundly positive effect.
14. Helping others increases a person’s sense of belonging and agency:
Helping others results in boost self-esteem. Volunteer at a local service, such as a homeless shelter, or make casual plans with friends. Spending time with a lonely relative who appreciates your company can count as volunteer work.
15. Express your gratitude to your loved ones;
It may be easier to say thank you to strangers than it is to say thank you to the people you care about the most. If you want to be grateful, thank your friends and family whenever they help you or just because you can thank them for being there for you for all these years and tell them how much their continued love and support mean to you.
You may not like feeling insecure, but when you’re in the habit of thanking the people you care for, it won’t be so bad.
16. Doing favors for your mates is a pleasurable experience:
Ungrateful people are also considered to be greedy, only wanting to hang out with others if they can “get” something from them. So, flip that on its head and try to help your friends without being asked.
Perhaps your friend is having a busy day and wants someone to pick up lunch for her; perhaps she requires assistance in selecting a prom dress. Whatever the mission, accept responsibility for it, and you will be grateful when you are aided in return. Doing other people’s favors would make you a less greedy person and more thankful when the time comes.
17. Stop whining on Facebook:
Don’t go on Facebook and whine to your 500 closest friends about how bad your day was, how bad the traffic was for 25 minutes, or how you lost your phone for the third time. Don’t rant about “haters” who make your life difficult, and don’t whine about how some people are fake and just want to take advantage of you.
Never, ever use Facebook to vent your frustrations. It would only fuel the fire and encourage more ungrateful actions if you rant on Facebook and get people to help your rants with comments and likes. If you want to share something personal with all of your Facebook mates, make it something positive.
18. Be respectful of your elders:
Stop thinking about going to see your grandmother or grandfather as a chore. Be thankful for your elders and the wisdom they can impart, and keep in mind that they won’t be with you forever. If you’re fortunate enough to have grandparents, take advantage of the time you have with them when you can. If not, be respectful to any older family members and show them how much you value their wisdom and affection.
19. Pay attention to the motivation behind acts of kindness shown to you:
Focus on how someone tried to put something positive into your life when they do something nice for you. Like they give you a gift, bring you a hot meal, offers to read over and edit your thesis. Someone gave up their valuable time, money, or other resources to do something nice for you.
20. Consider your values:
Make an effort to define what is most important to you. This does not imply financial success, but it does imply considering the type of person you want to be and the qualities you admire in others. Once you’ve established your principles, consider how you already live up to them.
Identifying people you respect is one way to help you clarify your beliefs. Consider what you admire about them and how you would like to be more like them. Make a list of the qualities you admire in yourself and others, such as loyalty, reliability, imagination, and bravery.
21. Stay away from negativity:
Thinking Negative is a normal occurrence in our lives, but it is something you can manage. Consider the many negative ways you think about the world and make a deliberate effort to change your mind. Thinking that is all-or-nothing.
This entails seeing the world in black-and-white terms while avoiding any grey areas or middle ground. For example, you might believe that if you don’t get an A on a test, you’ll be a failure. Remember that, you are not a failure if you cannot achieve all of your objectives.
Taking away the positive. This is where you come up with ways to minimize your achievements. You’ll make excuses like “I just got lucky” to justify your good fortune. It’s difficult to be satisfied with your life when you can’t recognize any of your achievements. You can make mistakes from time to time, but this method of self-identification focuses on your errors rather than your accomplishments.
22. Be patient:
It’s fine to have negative feelings about difficult circumstances. Keep in mind that life isn’t always going to be easy. Don’t worry if you’re having trouble coming up with something to be grateful for. Take a few minutes to relax and think about a few things for which you are grateful to help you get back on track. You might also discover that a difficult period or obstacle is something to be grateful for in and of itself.
Don’t be bothered if you find yourself being resentful or pessimistic. Refocus your thoughts, try to find at least one thing to be grateful for, and get back to practicing. If you find yourself being more pessimistic than you’d like, be careful with yourself and don’t be too hard on yourself.
Serving others through a volunteer organization is a perfect way to offer yourself a sense of pride and self-worth. If you interact with underprivileged people, it will also help you gain perspective on your own life and count your blessings.
Volunteering will help you understand yourself in a variety of ways: It has been shown in studies to reduce depression, as well as increase happiness, life satisfaction, self-esteem, and a sense of control over your life.
Volunteer with a group whose mission you agree with. Determine how your skills will help them achieve their goals. Putting your skills to good use to support others would help you recognize your abilities and experience.
24. Accept compliments:
When anyone compliments you, accept it graciously. Say “Thank you!” with a sincere smile and eye contact. Accepting a compliment demonstrates that you trust and believe in yourself. As an example, let’s say someone praises your shirt. “Thank you!” you can say. Instead of saying, “Oh, this old thing is falling apart,” say, “It’s one of my favorites!” I’m still wearing it.”
25. Avoid Jealousy:
Ungrateful people are known for their jealousy. If you’re ungrateful, you’re probably constantly comparing yourself to others, wishing you could have someone else’s boyfriend, car, wardrobe, or looks, or even wishing you could have the boyfriend, car, wardrobe, or looks of one of your friends or even a stranger.
If you want to be thankful, you must stop comparing as soon as possible, or you will never be satisfied with what you have. Remember that you can’t equate yourself to anyone else until you know their whole story. Sure, you may wish you had as much money as your best friend, but she may wish her parents were as in love with each other as yours are.